The Beauty of Bedtime Apologies

Last night as the kids were eating a bedtime snack a conflict unfolded quickly, and I sent Isla to her room and told her she was grounded. It was a out of character for both of us... I resisted the urge to follow up with her immediately, partially because I wanted to get the boys to bed before more tired conflict took place. I was also a little disappointed with my initial response to the situation. After finishing up the bedtime process and singing the boys their songs, I went into Isla’s room to sing her song and hoped to have a little chat first. I sat down, took her hand in mine as I do every night, and waited for her to go first. “Why are you grounding me? Is it really because I ate some of Tommy’s grapes?” (I think she said this more as an ice breaker knowing I’d chuckle… and maybe to make the point that I overreacted a smidge) “No, of course not. That was just the last straw.” I proceeded to explain what really frustrated me. She nodded silently in agreement. Longer pause. Then she said, “I wonder what’s going to happen next in the Mandalorian.” (The topic transition made me smile.) “Me too. It’s an entertaining show!” She continued to reflect on our rather awesome Sunday, “It was so much fun ice skating today. I can’t wait to go again!” “I agree! I need to find my skates so I can join you next time.” “Yes!... Can we go tomorrow?” “Maybe.” … And just like that, an unspoken forgiveness had taken place. We were back to our typical bedtime chats. Often we do exchange an “I’m sorry” or two but tonight it was unnecessary. I can’t put into words how refreshing it is to make mistakes, discuss, acknowledge, forgive, and move on. Always so relieving. Forgiveness fortifies relationships, promotes personal growth, and softens our souls. It’s authenticating and indescribable, really. And there is no right way to “give” it. I recently read this quote/poem by Cleo Wade,

“Forgiveness

Do not Spend your time Trying to wrap your head Around the idea of forgiveness It is not Intellectual

Forgiveness

Is spiritual It is one of the most Spiritual things We could ever do.”

So true. When I think about this season, forgiveness is one of the top concepts that comes to mind. Whether or not you believe in the Christmas story, you likely know of Jesus, His teachings, and His great sacrifice.

FORGIVENESS

It’s hard not to be in awe of Him and His mission. How He loved. How He forgave.

The Everlasting Light

And thankfully, it’s a gift we can all access and distribute. And one we undoubtedly need throughout our lives as part of our human learning process. Your soul/holy spirit/inner guide/true self (call it what you may) has the ability to love and forgive endlessly.

Might be the best gift you give or receive this holiday season.

Love and hugs to you all.